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Dear
Egyptian Castle,
First of all let
me say that this
is a very
informative
site. I am from
the U.S. and I
was seeing an
Egyptian man. We
seemed to be
very much in
love and we
always respected
each other's
differences. We
had plans
together to get
married. However
all that has
changed......and
I will tell you
why. I
frequently take
him to visit a
friend of his at
work. This
friend also is
his roommate.
All the time
they speak in
Egyptian in
front of me and
I never
appreciated it.
I spoke up in a
friendly way
once in a while
so maybe he
could get the
hint, but they
never turn to
English. After
several accounts
of this I told
my boyfriend one
day on the phone
that I really
feel left out
when he does
this. It would
be different if
when he was
speaking to this
particular
individual that
he would
translate a
little bit but
that doesn't
happen. He gives
me a two word
reply to what
the conversation
is about and
when I ask a
little more he
accuses me of
not trusting him
which is not
true. It is just
common courtesy.
Mind you, both
of them are
fluent in
English. As
polite as I
tried to be, he
got mad at me
and said that it
is my problem
and I better get
used to it. I am
a very
respectful
person and
believe me I am
not trying to
change him or
his culture, as
that would be
wrong. I even
have been
starting to
learn Arabic,
but until I am
pretty
proficient I
have begged him
to at least
reply in English
or say a little
English if his
friend insists
on talking
Arabic. I have
gotten the
chance to speak
to his friend on
a one to one
basis when I am
waiting for my
then boyfriend.
The main topic
that he talks to
me about is
girls and one
time I found
pornographic
magazines in my
boyfriends car.
My boyfriend
told me that
they belonged to
his friend,
which I believe.
Now just because
I brought this
plea for a minor
change out of
respect for me,
he has broken up
with me. I am
devastated over
this because of
his
unwillingness to
work it out, but
I guess I just
need and would
greatly
appreciate some
insight/advice
from Egyptian
Castle.
Thank you
very much.
Sincerely, |
Dear
Sandy,
Speaking in
Arabic while
another party
does not
understand the
language is
present, could
and might happen
if you are
living in Egypt,
but in no way it
is done
intentionally
but most likely
just getting
carried away
with a heated
conversation and
once realized
all parties
would
correct the
situation
immediately..
Having said
that, as
Egyptians
ourselves living
in USA there is
absolutely no
excuse for this
to take place
here and to
answer your
specific
question, yes it
is rude if you
speak Arabic in
the presence of
someone who does
not understand
it. In
your specific
situation we can
say that you
should not be
broken hearted
over him, he
simply does not
deserve you.
You should be
grateful that
this happened
before you got
married, as we
assure you it
would have only
gone worse after
marriage.
If he did not
have the decency
and common
courtesy now to
translate to you
what was said,
or make an
effort to speak
in English in
front of you,
you can only
imagine how it
would have been
like after you
actually marry
him.
We regret that
this individual
gave us
Egyptians a bad
name, however
this is
definitely a
behavioral
problem by
someone who
thinks that he
can just do what
he wants and get
away with it.
Consider
yourself blessed
that you did not
marry him.
We wish you all
the best. |
Our
honest opinion
The Egyptian
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